AITA for demanding that my fiancé's parents change their plans to have a vacation at the same place as our honeymoon?
My fiance and I have our wedding coming up in April. We had brainstormed for a while on where best to spend our honeymoon. We went over the more popular and well-known places but then landed on a more offbeat destination that I felt would truly be a great place for us to start our life as a married couple. I've been looking forward to it just being the two of us. I l know he has a really hectic work schedule and we were going to make the most out of this.
A couple of days ago he told me that his parents had been impressed by how hyped I was about it and were planning on going there for a vacation too, largely overlapping with our dates. They're staying at the same hotel as us.
I was livid. They can go any other time, why now. He said he had suggested that but his mom said they had taken time off for the wedding too, and it worked well into their plans. Also, that since we're going to be going back it'll allow them to maybe see us a few times before we leave. I was almost in tears I was so angry, he tried to reassure me saying they had promised it'll be two separate things and they won't be inserting themselves in our honeymoon, they want us to enjoy it, and they'd be doing their own thing. I want to believe it but I know his mom, I like her as a soon-to-be MIL but she can be very clingy and routinely laments how far he (and now us) are from them so I just have a feeling the two plans are not going to be as independent as he thinks they'll be.
I vented about it to my parents too, my mom agreed with me that this isn't right, my dad is more on the fence about it, he doesn't think everything is ruined. I've demanded my fiancé make them change their plans, he says he asked them to, they promised to do their own thing, what can he do tell them he doesn't believe them and call them liars? I messed up here and said if that's what it takes, he got quiet, I realized that was too much and sincerely apologized for crossing the line. This has been eating me up, I was envisioning a certain type of honeymoon and this happened. AITA?
Plaintiff: OP (The Bride Who Wants a Private Honeymoon)
Charges: Boundary Violation, Honeymoon Interference
Defendants: Fiancé’s Parents (A.K.A. The Surprise Travel Companions)
Defense: “It’s Just a Vacation,” Pure Coincidence
Statement of Facts:
OP and fiancé planned a private honeymoon at a unique location.
Fiancé’s parents booked a vacation there at the same time, in the same hotel.
OP feels this crosses a major boundary and worries her clingy MIL will intrude.
Fiancé asked them to reconsider, but they refused, promising they wouldn’t interfere.
OP demanded he push harder—this led to an argument.
The Verdict:
A honeymoon is for the couple, not for family meetups.
Fiancé’s parents are ignoring clear boundaries.
Fiancé needs to prioritize OP and their new marriage.
Final Judgment: NTA (Not The Asshole). lol
Sentence: Fiancé needs to have a real talk with his parents. If they won’t change their plans, OP & fiancé should switch hotels for privacy.
What’s your ruling? Unfortunate coincidence or honeymoon hijack? Drop your verdict below! ⚖️🔥
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