The Great Wedding Dress Showdown

AITA for kicking my maid of honor out of my wedding for refusing to wear the dress I chose?

When I got engaged, I asked my best friend of 15 years to be my maid of honor. She was thrilled—until she saw the dress. I picked matching satin gowns for my bridal party, but she refused to wear it, claiming it was unflattering.

At first, I thought she was joking. But as the wedding approached, she dug her heels in, insisting on wearing a completely different dress. I even offered alterations, different colors, a more comfortable fit—nope. She wanted her own thing, and that was that.

A week before the wedding, she told me she’d be wearing something of her own choice—so I told her she was out of the wedding. Now, she and some mutual friends are calling me a bridezilla and saying I was unreasonable for demanding control over what someone else wears.

I think if you agree to be in a wedding, you agree to the dress code. But maybe I overreacted? AITA?

The AITA Court of Public Opinion is now in session.

Plaintiff: Bride (A.K.A. The One Who Paid for the Dress)

Charges: Unreasonable Expectations, Dress Code Dictatorship

Defendant: Maid of Honor (A.K.A. The Rebel with a Cause)

Defense: Bodily Autonomy, Anti-Fashion Policing

Statement of Facts:

• Bride asked MOH to wear a specific dress that matched the bridal party.

• MOH rejected it completely and refused to wear anything remotely similar.

• Bride offered alterations, fit changes, and compromise.

• MOH still refused and insisted on her own dress.

• A week before the wedding, MOH announced she’d wear whatever she wanted.

• Bride kicked her out of the wedding.

• Now, mutual friends are calling the bride a bridezilla.

The Verdict:

Weddings are not democracy—they’re a monarchy. The bride gets final say over aesthetics, and the bridal party knows they’re signing up for matching outfits.

However, MOH isn’t a bridesmaid-for-hire—she’s a human being. If a dress made her feel awful, was it worth dying on this hill?

This was less about a dress and more about power struggles—and both sides refused to budge.

Final Judgment: ESH (Everyone Sucks Here).

Sentence: One awkward reunion at the next bridal shower.

What’s your verdict? Was the bride too controlling, or was the MOH out of line? Drop your judgment below!